I know it’s long, but please read the entire scenario…
So, the other night we were at Thanksgiving dinner at my mom and step dad’s house and there was a guy there that I didn’t know that well, and another guy who I didn’t know at all. The one guy, who is married to my step dad’s daughter I have known since I was 16, and he’s a goofy, creepy goober but he’s a harmless guy that’s a pretty decent type of person. The other guy was some dude that my step dad’s other daughter had brought with her. Ok, so me and those two guys started drinking vodka after dinner… I cut myself off after I got a little buzz, but they kept going until they were trashed. The guy that I knew kept playing around with my fiance’, pulling her toes and annoying her, and the other guy was just eyeballing her (like most guys do). She got off of the couch beside of him and came over to me… she told me that the guy was annoying her and I laughed because he annoys everyone…
…after we left she said “You’re not as protective over me as you used to be”, which I questioned and she replied “I don’t know, you just didn’t say anything to him and he was making me uncomfortable”…
OK, wtf, I have never allowed anyone to bad-mouth her, I have never allowed anyone to stare her down, I’ve never let it go when anyone whistled, winked, or hooted at her, …etc.
I haven’t had to actually fight anyone yet but I let them know how much I don’t appreciate it by offering that we go talk in the parking lot. She knows that I can fight (I do MMA, and I’m fairly decent) so she trusts me to protect her, but what’s all this about me not being protective? I would never let anyone hurt her… and she isn’t afraid of anything when she’s around me… I don’t understand it, was I supposed to beat the hell out of that guy and ruin Thanksgiving dinner at my mom’s because he was kidding around with her? I didn’t see anything wrong with it, plus I trust the guy…
wtf, it’s confusing
thanks for any serious answers I get
and I usually automatically make a confrontation when someone actually makes her feel truly “uncomfortable”; like fearing for her safety, …etc.
but I don’t understand how this made her uncomfortable when his wife was there, and that I knew him…
remember, I’ve done martial arts since I was about 5, and I’m not sure if my hands are registered any more because I haven’t done the registration in a while… if I’m still registered and I get into a fight, I can go straight to jail with “assault with a deadly weapon” by using my hands or feet…
Doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong, she felt uncomfortable and came and sat next to you which is what I would have done. I don’t think i would have done anything differently, and your right not to get up in dudes face over some dumb stuff. Sounds to me like your protective so she needs to take a step back and realize that it wasn’t the place nor the time to start something that was Innocent. We should have wanted to you to fight and ruin dinner? Most likely not, so she needs to chill and forget about it!
Women like men to be overly protective SOMETIMES not all the times. It lets them know that the man shows whos boss to others. Shows you’ve got ownership over your prize :] regardless its sexy xD!!
Us girls are kinda moody.
So she proably just wanted you to atleast tell him not to touch her.
Cause come on how do you think she would feel if there was a girl there pulling on your toes and annoying you.
Sometimes we just wan’t you guys to Realize something’s wrong